Blogger drama is thankfully not all that common in the community.
When it does arise, it ranges from the little petty fights to full scale arguments, some of which border on criminal activity. And I think it’s a lie if you’re a blogger and say you haven’t been involved in blogger drama in someway or another. Whether that’s just doing a little bit of digging after seeing a juicy indirect Tweet or actually being dragged into the midst of a drama. We all love a little bit of tea being spilt.
But at what point is it OK to start drama?
Ordinarily, it’s not OK.
I say this because causing drama just causes rifts in the community and brings down the reputation of the community. A lot of people see the blogging community as negative and fairly toxic because of some of the bitchiness.
So Is It Just Downright Wrong To Cause Drama?
No. I don’t believe it’s downright wrong to cause drama but I only see it acceptable in certain circumstances.
I am a firm believer (and do act on this) that if you do something shitty and need to be called out, then I will call you out. One way or another. That may be saying something to you directly/privately or calling you out publicly.
Calling people out publicly isn’t something I enjoy doing but in certain cases, it’s necessary.
For example, when there was a blogger copying and pasting other people’s hard work, then I called her out publicly because other people needed to know what was going on. And this is when I think it’s OK to start drama or call someone out publicly. When other people need to know what’s going on.
To call someone out or cause drama just because you’ve had a petty little argument or you don’t like them is completely wrong. To do it maliciously just to get back at someone is downright disgusting and if you’re that type of person, then you should probably be ashamed of yourself.
Calling Someone Out “Gracefully”
So you want to call someone out because they’ve done something wrong that people need to know about. OK. Cool.
But how do you do it so you don’t sound bitter or petty or come across the wrong way? Well, I always say that if you have proof, include it. Has someone been stealing your content? Show their content side by side with yours. Has someone sent you nasty messages that are discriminatory and hateful? Show the messages and explain why they’re wrong.
If you don’t want to name them publicly, you don’t have to. You can just alert people to what’s going on and to be wary so that the person doing the deed doesn’t get negative backlash from your end. You don’t have control over what your followers do but you risk being being told you were inciting hate if you name someone and your followers/other people go after them.
I will name if other people have before. If someone else has called them out for the same thing, then I don’t mind naming someone in my Tweet or post. I just don’t like causing unnecessary drama by naming and shaming. As long as you can back it up, I don’t see why that person needs to be named if naming them isn’t necessary.
Another circumstance in which I will name someone is if they have said something against me and named me. This may sound petty but if someone thinks it’s OK to put my name against lies, then I am 100% OK with naming them.
If I’ve been called out for doing something wrong and it’s not a lie, I will apologise. I try and be a nice person. Try to be approachable and friendly because that’s who I am as a person. I don’t deliberately go around being problematic. If I do something out of line, it’s either an accident and I will apologise, or I will justify why I did something.
If You’re Not Involved – Don’t Get Involved
This is honestly the thing that grinds my gears so damn much.
So many times I see people getting involved or starting drama with something that doesn’t concern them. Seen a tweet that you don’t like but has nothing to do with you? Don’t make a big deal over it unless it’s really hateful or they’ve said something wrong. Are two blogger warring over something? Do you need to get involved or start spreading the ‘tea’? If it’s nothing to do with you- stay out of it!
This is where drama gets nasty because people know that drama sells, so to speak, so capitalise this by way of blog posts, tweets, videos etc. They get more views. Yes, I know that it could be considered that I’m doing this myself with these posts but I’m not trying to incite drama. I’m stating my opinion on it all or putting an end to drama I’ve been involved in. Please don’t try and hate on me for it because honestly, there’s nothing here to actually pick on.
It’s OK to get involved in situations like the blogger copying. We all need to be aware of that so to look out for other people, share it. But when it’s something that YOU have taken an issue with that other people may not, then don’t get involved if it doesn’t concern you! It can be so damaging to someone’s mental health and overall confidence when it comes to their blog if people nitpick on their tweets, posts, photos etc when there’s nothing hugely wrong with it. Countless times I’ve had to console people who are upset because people have caused drama out of nothing. Tweets that are anything but problematic. Ones that can’t even be misconstrued. You may have your own opinion but causing drama over it really isn’t worth it, believe me because I’ve been there.
And if you can’t be sure a subtweet or post is about you, then for gods sake, don’t rise to it! Don’t go on a Twitter rant. Message the person and ask NICELY if it’s about you and if it is, sort it out privately and understand what you did if you upset them or offended them. It’s really not that hard.
My main message from this is that drama isn’t necessary. If you can sort something out in private then do it that way. If people need to know about an issue because it’s important, then share it. You’re essentially looking out for other people and that’s what this community should be doing. Looking out for each other and supporting each other.
I’d love to hear your views on blogging drama! Let me know your views with a comment!
Look out tomorrow for my experience with blogger drama (the full story) and how much of a negative impact it can have on someone.
Lots of Love,