I’ve been really struggling with my mental health recently and I can’t find anything to make me happy. Since my diagnosis of ADHD, I’ve dragged my feet along the ground. I’ve not smiled and spent hours crying.
But working full time, I know I can’t live that way so I’ve tried to do some little things to make myself a little bit happier and I’ve decided to share these things with you to hopefully help someone. These are such mundane things but sometimes you need simple, normal things to ground yourself and pull yourself up again.
I’m not 100% fine because obviously, I have deep set issues that these 5 little changes aren’t going to eradicate completely but they have made my life a little better and my days a little more bearable.
Wow, this seems such a stupid thing to write in a post like this. Water is a total necessity but if you’re anything like me, when you’re feeling low you sometimes forget to do the little things like staying hydrated.
I find that when I’ve not had enough water, I’m tired and grouchy and just feel physically blegh.
Try to drink a glass every hour. Maybe a small glass. Maybe a big one. If you’re working, have a bottle nearby and try to drink one bottle before lunch and one after. This has actually increased my energy levels and I’ve managed to get through my working day a little better.
Go For A Walk
I’ve mentioned in a previous blog post that walking has been proven to help with depression as it releases the happy chemicals your brain needs. I know that us Brits may not feel like walking in this heat but even a short walk in the evening can help wind you down for sleeping plus, it’s cooler at night.
One of the things I do if I’m really stressed out, is to walk from the hospital back into town after work instead of catching the bus. I don’t put my headphones on and just let the world carry on around me. Hearing life continue around me is somewhat comforting. It reminds me that I’m real. It grounds me completely. So I would definitely recommend walking without listening to music.
Use A Face Mask
For me, having gorgeous, soft skin makes me feel so happy. No clogged pores? Yes please. While I have the mask on, I can just relax. I use clay masks so have this fear of the clay rubbing off on things. I just sit, relax for 20 minutes and then spend the next hour stroking my face.
To sound somewhat poetic, taking that layer of dead, dry skin off my face feels like it’s an entirely new face looking and facing the world. It’s empowering and you know you’ve got a good face mask when you feel empowered and confident in your skin after you’ve used it.
Get A Regular Sleep Pattern
But you want to lie in bed all day? I know the feeling. But I have learnt from working full time and then having a month off, that my mood drops when I just lie in bed and do nothing. Give yourself a reason to wake up- even if that’s just to have a coffee at 9am. The importance of sleep has become apparent through my hypnotherapy sessions. My hypnotherapist has told me that while you’re in REM sleep, your brain processes the negative thoughts and can only do so much. If you sleep for too long, your brain actually gets tired so you become more tired too.
Having a regular sleep pattern has been my biggest lifesaver since I started working. Yes, I sleep a little more on the weekends and my sleep is mostly regulated by taking Circadin but I still try and wake up around 11am because I go to sleep later at night on the weekends.
Give Yourself A Purpose
This sounds odd but I know first hand that when you are depressed and not really doing anything, you feel lost and like you don’t really belong. It’s not the case for everyone but for some people, it can be the biggest source of lost motivation.
Giving yourself a purpose doesn’t have to be something huge. For me, my job is my purpose. It’s my reason to get out of bed in the morning. But walking your dog could be your purpose. Your blog. It sounds so stupid and you can laugh but until you’ve felt like you don’t have a purpose, you really don’t understand how it feels. But believe me, the simplest little thing to keep going for really does help.
To anyone who’s reading this that needs to hear it, you’re doing OK. You’re actually doing amazingly well. You’re still here and that is an achievement, especially if your mental health is at it’s worse. You are stronger than you think.