A lot of people tell me that I talk too much about my problems and even go as far to say I’m oversharing information where my mental health is concerned.
For a while, I was extremely self conscious and my habit to blurt everything out without filter (thanks for that, ADHD x) made conversations sometimes uncomfortable. However, as I learned to control that with coping strategies and medication, I began to realise that I could educate others through my experiences and still let out my feelings but in a more productive way.
My ADHD diagnosis was a catalyst for the shift in focus on my blog. Due to my low mood, I was already feeling unmotivated anyway and needed a productive outlet for my feelings as I had nobody to talk to. I wrote my first post on my diagnosis and writing that came easier than writing reviews or whatever. It was personal to me. It was my story. And I could really inject my personality into the words I wrote.
Melanie With An ie was already a very personal name for me. I’ve spent my whole life with people spelling my first and last name wrong and I came up with the name change (I had a horrible name originally) when on the phone to HMRC here in the UK.
“Is that Melony with a ‘y’ or Melanie with an ‘ie’?”
It’s Melanie. With an ie.
It’s a bit of a play on words I guess. Fairly clever. Melony and Melanie are the two common ways of spelling my name. So, you have the ‘ony’ variant and the ‘anie’ variant. Melanie with ‘anie’. In speech, you’d say ‘with an ie’ so make of that what you will – I found it neat.
I spend my life correcting people of my name so this was a bit of a personal inside joke for me but I love it and it stuck.
I’ve always maintained that my blog would be true to who I am offline. Honest, real, friendly and personal. I didn’t want to be fake just for people to read and like my content. And given that I created my blog after my suicide attempt last year, with the aim of using it as a coping strategy, I decided it was time to rebrand slightly.
So instead of being nominated for a blog award (PLEASE VOTE!!) this year under the beauty category, I’m now a lifestyle and mental health blogger!
“Boys are nearly three times more likely to be diagnosed with ADHD (13.2 percent) than are girls (5.6 percent). In adults, the rate is much lower (about 4.4 percent)”
Females with ADHD are less commonly diagnosed than males and are generally diagnosed later when their symptoms have already impacted a large chunk of their lives. I’m one of the lucky ones diagnosed sooner rather than later.
I can’t honestly say I know anyone in my life who is a female and has ADHD. Can probably count at least 5-10 males I know with ADHD. But when I got my diagnosis, I felt so alone. I wanted to see another female struggling like me or had struggled and was now doing better. I wanted some reassurance that I’d be OK- especially as symptoms in females can manifest differently to in males.
I needed comfort and I hope that my posts can help people who, like me, struggled with that diagnosis. Male or female. As I say in my post addressing ADHD stereotypes, there is such a stigma surrounding ADHD still that does not seem to be addressed as quickly as stigmas surrounding mental health.
I felt alone when I got my diagnosis… nobody should feel that way and I hope I offer some comfort to someone, even if it is just through my words
Now, I am no expert on ADHD but my experiences will ring true with someone out there and it may them understand themselves better or even feel comfort. Especially with my ADHD symptoms, if you give me a load of facts and information and jargon like some websites and book and even psychiatrists/psychologists/doctors do, you’ll lose my focus. So my hope is that by making my content engaging it will be easier for people with ADHD to tune into and focus on.
To the person that made a comment earlier this year asking why my paragraphs are so short?
Huge chunks of text make me tune out. Smaller paragraphs are more manageable. I can digest it better.
So yes, maybe I am guilty of oversharing information on my mental health but is it really oversharing if it’s in the interest of educating others and normalising the discussions of mental health and learning difficulties?