Do you want to have your best year yet in 2019?
I think most of us say we do and there’s always those tweets that tell us to RT to have the best year/ RT or we’ll have the worst year.
It almost seems like it’s the done thing to have your best year in the following year or it’s not good enough. It’s never directly said but think about it. We’re trying to live our best lives or have the best year. It’s all very much a superlative.
But what if you can’t have the most amazing year or live your best life? What if you feel like that’s not going to happen?
For me, 2019 is going to be a good year and I’ll make the most of it but it will not be my favourite year. I’m making 2019 my year to make a change in my life and get myself better and more stable. That’s going to bring rough patches and hard times and who on earth knows what curveballs life is going to throw at me after 2018?!
Question is, have we failed if we don’t make 2019 our best year? Absolutely not.
Thing is, we don’t always feel our best and things happen that are undeniably shit and tough and not really things that would make a year the best year. That’s life and that’s how life works. There is always going to be times where life is harder.
We can still set goals and strive for a good year though, without the pressure of wanting the greatest year of our life. The only thing that matters though is that you keep fighting and even if you don’t feel like you achieve anything at the end of 2019 of you had a tough year? You still being around is an achievement. Don’t forget that.
Looking forward, don’t set New Year’s Resolutions. Set little goals you want to achieve that are obtainable. Instead of setting year long goals, do it month by month or week by week. If you want to feel like you’re making the most from your year, that’s one way in which you can do it without feeling such a mounting pressure.
In my experience, people share their New Years Resolutions but when they celebrate what they’ve achieved by the end of the year, the two are rarely the same. That’s not a criticism by any means – it’s more an observation that life changes so much in a year that setting goals to achieve for a whole year can often be unproductive as we end up breaking them.
Don’t worry about how great your year is going compared to other people who claim to be living their best life. You’re living. That’s still incredibly important
Good year, bad year. Best year, worst year. It really doesn’t matter. Make the most of whatever life throws at you and that’s all you need. Life isn’t all about achieving things – our sole goal as human beings is not to be the most successful of our peers.
Don’t be someone who tells others to have their best year yet in 2019. You may not see that the person you’re saying this too feels pressured to have a good year and could feel like they’ve failed if their year is not the best. If you’re striving for you’re best year yet then that’s perfectly alright but make sure you’re not making other people feel the pressure of having to do the same.
However you take 2019, I hope it’s not too rough for you and if it is, remember that there is always someone to help you through the darker times. Celebrate the good times, no matter how small and don’t feel bad for being sad in the darker times. Do what makes you happy and be unapologetically selfish if you need to.
2019 may not be your best year but I hope it’s a good one.
Happy New Year, everyone!